A friend stayed over for the weekend and asked, “So what’s it like to be adopted?”
I quickly responded, “Well, what’s it like living with people you are related to?”
We sat in silence for a moment as we both realized that neither of us could ever fully understand the other. Also words would in no way do us justice in explaining those sentiments either. With the holidays approaching and big family gatherings occurring, a certain question will randomly come to mind. You know, that question when you scan that big long table and wonder what exactly it feels like to be genetically related to someone… to be able to share in holidays together, to live in the same household, and to live that everyday life with someone who may look and act just like you. Someone you can notice the similarities and say, “Hey, I have your eyes, nose, and hair.” Or someone that shares the same love of certain foods or music tastes… maybe even sports. And even though I feel welcomed and loved in my family, this curiosity will never go away.
I’ve attended quite few weddings recently and also welcomed new babies into my friend’s lives. It makes me wonder what exactly it would be like to be married one day. Or even more crazy, what if I have a child? What will it be like to live under the same roof with someone who actually shares my blood? That concept pretty much blows my mind. Of course I get asked if I’ll consider adoption but that is discussion for much later.
The holidays are a great time for families and yes, you always hear about crazy in-laws or strange siblings. So even though your family may not be “perfect” or “normal” they are still your family… whether you are genetically related to them or not. As you sit around the table to share a meal remember to be grateful for your perfectly imperfect family.
~Melissa Joy Yeung