Land of Gazillion Adoptees believes that this is the time of the adoptee. Adoptees are finally being recognized as a legitimate voice in the adoption experience. Sure, we still have a long way to go; it’s an uphill battle against mainstream ideas about adoption and the powers that be, but this IS our time and we (adoptees) are the future. Adoption agencies may use the faces of youth adoptees to pull on our heartstrings and perpetuate the old way of adoption, but the faces of adult adoptees are looking towards new times, new policies, and new conversations about the adoption experience.
Case in point: Parenting As Adoptees. While we struggle to change decades old policies and practices, we also strive to support each other and talk about what really matters to us NOW. Adoption is not a finite experience and the repercussions of our relinquishment and adoption echo throughout our lifetimes. Every piece of our lives that we weave together has the thread of adoption running through it; our relationships, our careers, and how we parent, if we so choose. As adoptees, many of us have a very complicated relationship with parenting. To some, it is a path to healing and understanding, to others it is the doorway that leads to further longing and sadness. To all of us, this is a conversation that is just getting started. Parenting As Adoptees is a wonderful beginning of a discussion of an adoption experience that is equally as rich and diverse as our individual adoption stories.
And, really, who better to give us advice, provide insight, or just touch our hearts than other adoptees? As I’ve said before, adoptees do it best. We are our own best allies and role models for how to navigate the complex terrain of the adoption experience. There are so many of my personal experiences in adoption that I believe were less traumatic and more enriching because I had the privilege of receiving counsel from other adoptees through blogs, books, and in-person conversations. I will rely on Parenting As Adoptees to help me navigate and understand my own experience as an adoptee parent and will never forget what a gift it is to have this resource from my own community.