So, I’ve been on a bit of a rant this week. For some my rants may seem too tame or safe, to others they may seem too aggressive or unfair. I’m open to being perceived in both lights. Because, that’s the thing about the adoption experience – it’s not just one experience. It’s many experiences. However, people and organizations keep trying to fit adoption into one little box. The more we try to compress these experiences the greater the pressure becomes and it will eventually explode, and the only ones wounded will be the children we all, in our own ways, are trying to help.
So here is my final message:
We all need room. Room to find our voices, share our stories, and room to heal. We need room to grow up and use our critical minds, room to collaborate, and room to create something new and better. We need room to hold others accountable, be called on to be accountable, and room to step aside when appropriate. We need room to be wrong, to be right, and to be unified.
I hold fast to the idea that nothing has changed until everything has changed. It keeps me motivated and committed to my work. But, nothing will change if we don’t work together. We have to set aside our egos and hear one another, value each other as equal partners in a complex and emotion-laden experience, and keep our eyes to the future. A future that looks nothing like today.