There’s yet another adoptee citizenship case involving an Indian adoptee. There are a surprising number of adoptees, adoptive parents, AND adoption establishment individuals who are looking into the story. In an effort to do my part to raise awareness, I took to Facebook last night and did my usual “snarky Kevin Ost-Vollmers” routine. To prod Adam Pertman of the Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute a bit to see if he or Evan B. would do something, I wrote the following and tagged him:
”Adam Pertman, Evan B and its big name board (isn’t Hugh Jackman an honorary member or something? Jane Aronson?) doesn’t really deal with this stuff, right? Adoptees getting deported out of the US? Am I just making stuff up?”
As you may have guessed, a few adoptees jumped and leveled critiques of Adam/Evan B. I asked these adoptees to give Adam, whom I don’t mind personally, the benefit of the doubt and allow him to respond. He did and wrote:
“We are doing “stuff,” in this case and in others. Now I’m going back to work rather than defending myself or the Institute against uninformed criticism. May I ask the folks who are throwing brickbats: Do you still beat your wife?”
Here’s the screenshot.
I’m sure Adam gets tired of defending himself and Evan B. However, defending oneself is just a part of the game when you’re involved in adoption. I would know since people ask me these types of questions all the time: “Why are you talking with NCFA?”; “Why are you talking with CCAI?”; “Why are you talking with JCICS?”; “Why bother talking with Pertman?”; “Why don’t you fully come out in favor of banning adoption altogether?”; “You’re so disrespectful for attacking Children’s Home Society & Family Services.”
More than that, Adam’s vitriolic response was unprofessional. Nevertheless, unlike adoptees who periodically throw insults, Adam won’t be labeled “angry,” “unstable,” “not to be taken seriously,” etc. Rather, Adam will receive a free pass, which are not offered to adoptees. Adam will continue to rub shoulders with celebrities. Adam will remain in the media’s conciousness whenever it needs “expert testimony” about an adoption story while the stories of individuals like Kairi Abha Shepherd remain in obscurity.