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Let’s Give Away $10,000

Update, 9/14/11: We’re currently at 35 pledges ($1,950). Come on, dear reader. You know you want to join the resistance. You will NOT have to send the donation until we’ve reached the $10,000 goal. And you can pledge whatever amount is appropriate for you if the requested $50 doesn’t work. A couple of individuals have offered to give $25 instead. Participation is key for in this effort.

As a former fundraiser, I’m always surprised by the lack of philanthropy in the adoption community. It’s not like the adoption community’s base doesn’t have the money. Think about all of the adoptees who have done well for themselves. Think about all of the upper middle class/upper class adoptive parents out there who send their kids to private schools, which are always asking for money. Imagine what could happen if adoptee efforts tapped into this under cultivated resource…

With this in mind, I have a dream. I have a dream of giving away $10,000 sometime this year to a Minnesota adoptee organization, project, etc. Of course my wife and I don’t have $10,000 to give. However, the Ost-Vollmers Family can certainly promise to give $50 if 199 other individuals/families stepped up and pledge to give $50 as well. Unlike other Asians, I’m not good at math, but my calculations say that 200 pledges of $50=$10,000.

How would the recipient be chosen? Well, it could be very straightforward. A call could be announced, asking adoptees to submit a short paragraph that talks about their organization, project, etc. You in turn could vote on the submissions.

So, what say you, dear reader? Do you have $50 to give? Please feel free to email me, kostvollmers(at), and I’ll start taking a pledge tally.

In the meantime, what adoption related stuff is floating out there…?

Entertainment Tonight

Perhaps the cutest twit pic of the bunch belongs to Jesse Tyler Ferguson, who posted a photo of 4-year-old Aubrey Anderson-Emmons [daughter of comedian/Korean adoptee Amy Anderson], who’s replacing stoic twins Jaden and Ella Hiller as baby Lily, riding a horse. (source)

The Atlanta Post

For African Americans adoption has yet another layer of imagery. Families being torn apart by drug use, poverty, homelessness and even death. At any given moment there are 500,000 children in foster care across the United States with 26% being African American according to U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, 2010 statistics. (source)


Using a belief that God had ordained the Holts (and still does) to move children to “new” and “improved” families, the Holts have radically changed the lives of hundreds of thousands of families and children worldwide and continue to do so. This article is dedicated to all adoptees who have committed suicide, including one of Holt’s adopted sons, Joe (1984), and another Korean-born adoptee (Eric Lew Jones) sent to the infamous Christian cult leader Jim Jones (best known for inducing his 900 followers to drink cyanide-laced Flavor Aid, which led to their death). May these two young men and all families separated by adoption be nurtured by the Great Mother of the Universe. (source)

The Huffington Post

I was 19 years old when the news broke that Woody Allen had left Mia Farrow for her adopted Korean daughter Soon-Yi Previn in 1992. I didn’t think too much of it, except “eeewwwww,” like everyone else. My birth mother had a sharply different take. “Sound familiar?” she said with a sort of casual cruelty to me one afternoon. “Like how?” I asked. “You and (your father) are not all that different in your dynamic.” (source)

John Raible

Seeing some of the same presenters and experts (mostly APs) offering the very same sessions that they offered five, ten, and even fifteen years ago. Haven’t they learned anything new? Don’t they have something innovative or revolutionary to offer? Frustration at the depressingly slow rate of change, over the decades. I wonder how long it will take to regain my equilibrium this time? (source)

10 Comments on Let’s Give Away $10,000

  1. Kevin:

    Not only am I Not good at math, I really don’t think I am “Asian” 🙂

    Still, I’ll pitch in to help.

    What is that now? 198 to go???


  2. The Huffington Post article is very interesting and so are the comments made about the article. Does anyone know if there are any existing studies or data about sexual relationships between APs and adoptees? I’ve heard cases of reunited birth parents and adoptees or reunited birth siblings and adoptees forming sexual relationships, but have only heard of the Woody Allen case in the case of adoptive parents and adoptees.

    • This is a great question, Shelise. I have to admit that I was initially weirded out by the article, but it’s compelling nevertheless…

      • I’m African American and I’m excellent at math. How’s that!?! I’m in as long as the money stays far from Woody Allen types! Although, Soon-Yi did get pretty sweet Knicks tickets :-/

      • The subject is definitely cringe worthy and, personally, grosses me out. However, there have been times when I have been in public with my Dad and felt self-conscious that strangers may think we are married – like, I’m a mail order bride or something. I can understand how a stranger could interpret our intimate (non-sexual) way of interacting as something romantic.

        I think the larger issue this essay touches on is that an adoptive family’s relationship can be called into question the way, I believe, a biological family’s relationships cannot. What is the impact when people ask adoptees to justify and explain how they are a part of their family?

        • Nice… This is the reason why I’m very pleased to have you on Team LGA, Shelise. I can’t wait for your first post if you’re articulating stuff like this on comments. Thanks!

  3. Will make a pledge for $50, and hope the goal is reached. Lost my snarkiness on the way up to to my office. Thppppppppppppppppppt.

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