Working at Adoption Mosaic, I meet a lot of people (parents, professionals, adoptees) who tell me that adoption has changed a lot since I was adopted in 1980. However, when I see kids of color living in all-white communities with parents who don’t know how to, are too scared to, or don’t care to talk about race, I don’t think anything has changed since the days when the ruling philosophy was “assimilation is best”. When I see adoptees of all ages who are left to navigate their adoption experience alone because everyone else is too scared to even hold the map, I don’t think that anything has changed. No kid or adult adoptee should be forced to figure out how to be Korean, Black, Brown, a part of their birth family, a part of their adoptive family, etc. on their own. Just because we are adoptees doesn’t mean the onus is on us and us alone to understand such a complex experience. And, when the professional adoption world is still yelling out “in the best interest of the child” (with obligatory sad-faced “orphan” photo, of course) and I read ANOTHER story like this >> I don’t think they ever had my best interest in mind.
I’m an Angry Adoptee because NOTHING has changed until EVERYTHING has changed. This week on LGA, the gloves are off, the shit-kickers are on and no one is safe.