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The Confrontation of the Summer (June 13th, 12-1 pm): Land of Gazillion Adoptees Vs. Lutheran Social Service/Children’s Home Society & Family Services

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You read the title correctly.  LGA is taking on Lutheran Social Service of Minnesota (LSS)/Children’s Home Society & Family Services (CHSFS)…in person.  On June 13th (12:00-1:00 pm CST), Kevin Vollmers will travel to the offices of LSS/CHSFS and interview four members of the adoption agency’s leadership LIVE. Kevin, in his usual style, will ask some/all of the following questions suggested by members of LGA Nation:

  • Do you feel as though you are helping a problem or creating one?
  • Is there any actual independent vetting of the information given by pre-adoptive parents in their home study interviews?
  • Why are international adoptees getting deported?
  • What is the motivation behind birth/first parent meetings with adoptive parents at the time of placement in Ethiopia, and what follow up counseling and information is made available to the birth/first family?
  • Do you have real, concrete support for adoptees around issues of racism and othering? Are there support groups led by people of color and mentors?
  • What support/training is required for the adoptive parents post placement?

Sounds fun, yes?  Tune in then friends!

Summer Drinking Games for Adoptees

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surly-furiousThank you Laura Klunder for this LGA Exclusive!  BTW, I’m pretty sure I would fall flat on my face in an hour if I played the following drinking game.

P.S. Laura will be a regular columnist for the upcoming Land of Gazillion Adoptees Magazine. We’re so lucky, and I can’t wait to see what she does in the months to come.
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Summer Drinking Games for Adoptees
By Laura Klunder

Hey folks! It’s finally summer in Minnesota! ‘Tis the season of getting out, hooking up, and drinking hard…especially for those of us self-medicating for a bad case of ASS. Here are Coloring Out’s ideas for getting buzzed and building community.*

*The following community building activities are experimental and must be accompanied with a balanced diet, regular exercise, and ongoing support by a licensed mental health professional.

Never Have I Ever…for transracially and transnationally adopted adults of legal drinking age.

You know this game: drink if you have, take a break if you haven’t. Here are some prompts to get you started.

Never have I ever…

1      Pretended to not speak English in order to avoid talking with White people.

2      Hooked up at an Adoptee event or gathering.

3      Sworn off dating White people.

4      Self-identified as a Twinkie, Banana, Oreo, etc.

5      Tried to live up to racial stereotypes.

6      Lost my shit on a loved one when they tripped over my adoption trauma.

7      Googled “Adoptee”.

8      Cried when reading emo poetry about Adoptee identity and/or experiences.

9      Gotten a tattoo of a nationalistic symbol from my country of origin.

10   Thrown a temper tantrum on my birthday.

11   Given up, slammed the door, runaway, driven away, flown away.

12   Written a love letter to another Adoptee.

13   Been afraid of people who look like me.

14   Dropped some knowledge on my White family when they said racist crap to me.

15   Organized for racial justice.

I Spy…neo-liberal White people, cultural appropriation, exotification, racism….the possibilities are endless. Make a general or context-specific list of possibilities that will keep you buzzed during this sobering season of Whiteness. Racism is everywhere, so get your flask ready.

Here’s my general list for when I’m hanging out by the lakes or grabbing a bite to eat. Take a drink with me every time you see:

1      A White person with oriental and/or tribal tats.

2      “Ethnic” menu items contrasted with “normal” food. Example: Korean bbq wings v. hamburger.

3      More American flags than people of color in a space.

4      A couple you’re reading as an Asian woman and a White dude with a beard.

5      White people doing yoga.

Summer Blockbuster Buzz

Summer is an exciting time for epic films starring sexy White people. I like to resist fictional racial violence and ignorant adoption narratives by getting wasted in real life. Conceal and carry your flask to the movies and take a long, hard pull whenever you see the following:

1      A transracial, transnational Adoptee saves the world.

2      Evil’s origins are in loss and displacement.

3      A racist Adopter stars in the role of racist White lady.

4      The only dynamic, brilliant, attractive, and hilarious person of color is killed to save the White hero.

5      Your White friends laugh at a racist joke that you don’t find funny.

White allies! You can get in on our summertime buzz too. Buy us a drink every time you introduce us to one of your White friends who uses our country of origin as an access point to strike up a conversation with us. Or if you’re short on funds and don’t have any ignorant White friends, give us a ride home and don’t get defensive when we talk about racism.

Cheers to a great summer! And don’t forget to drink and adopt responsibly.

Updated: Introducing Some of the Land of Gazillion Adoptees Magazine Team!

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As previously mentioned, our lovely blog will be undergoing a facelift.  Toward the end of this summer, the blog will become a full fledged monthly magazine simply called Land of Gazillion Adoptees Magazine.  It will be subscription based, include ads, be interactive, and, most importantly, will offer news, perspectives, insights, commentary, and research from some of the best in the adoption community.  The current members of the magazine team, which is nearly complete, are listed below.  Impressive, yes?

So, are you ready to hop on the LGA Magazine train?  Would you like to become a magazine partner by giving seed funding to help us cover overhead (website, travel funds for interviews, film for photo/video essays, etc.)?  Would you like to advertise?  If so, please feel free to contact Kevin Haebeom Vollmers: kostvollmers@gmail.com.
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Editors: Shelise Gieseke and Kevin Haebeom Vollmers

Arts/Entertainment: Jared Rehberg

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Columnists: David Amarel, Martha Crawford, Claudia Corrigan D’Arcy, Ascelefech Evans, Shannon Gibney, Susan Devan Harness,  Laura Klunder, and Fang Lee.

Film Essays: John Sanvidge (covering New York)

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Literature: Katie Hae Leo

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Photography Essays: Suzi Pratt (covering Seattle)

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Podcasts: Kevin Haebeom Vollmers

Podcast Jingle: Mayda

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Twin Cities Food: Thomas Kim and Kat Melgaard

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Research, Policy, and Legislation: JaeRan Kim, Kit Meyers, and John Raible

Video Interviews: Marissa Borst and Joyce Maguire Pavao

Webmaster: Aron Spiess

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Web Designer: Heewon Lee

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So, A Chinese Adoptee and a Korean Adoptee Decided To Chat: The LGA Conversation With Jenni Fang Lee

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Last week Kevin Haebeom Vollmers had the opportunity to chat with Jenni Fang Lee, who was featured in the film Somewhere Between.  They covered a ton of ground, including racism, cute Korean men, traveling to China, the film Stuck, Fangtopia, The Girls 20 Summit, and building relationships between adoptees of different backgrounds. Enjoy!

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You Wish You Were This Fierce In College: Our Interview With Rachel Rostad of Macalester

Remember college? No? We don’t either. Remember being this passionate? No? We don’t ever remember being this passionate.


Korean adoptee Rachel Rostad came to our attention through Lost Daughters. We really liked what we saw, and so we approached her for a chat. She graciously agreed, which is totally sweet because, well, she now gets acclaim from the likes of Angry Asian Man, Hyphen Magazine, etc.  Remember being mentioned by these types of folks/places? We don’t either… Enjoy!
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Land of Gazillion Adoptees: Where did you grow up?

Rachel: I grew up in Sartell, MN, a suburb of St. Cloud, MN.

LGA: Sartell! Okay, why Macalester? And what inspired you to join the college’s slam poetry team?

Rachel: I chose Macalester because the college’s values of multiculturalism and community service really resonated with me.

As for why I started doing this art form, I first encountered slam poetry at one of Macalester’s monthly slams and was absolutely blown away. The featured poets were Rachel McKibbens and Mindy Nettifee. Pretty sure I cried and afterwards, I sent them both really awkward Facebook messages! I started going to all the slams and began writing slam poems, and I competed for a spot on the team and got it. I had experience with writing and performing, so it felt like a natural bridge between the two art forms. What I realized later is that the Twin Cities has one of the best slam poetry scenes in the nation, and I was really lucky to encounter the art form where I did.

LGA: We LOVE your poem “Adoption,” which the Citypages posted. How did it come about? What’s the message?

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Rachel: Thanks! I actually originally wrote the poem addressed to a generalized audience — to the random people at restaurants who would stare at my family, or those who seemed to pity me because I was adopted. Then I realized that it would be much more powerful and specific if I kept it within my own family. I love my grandparents, but it’s been painful at times. To be absolutely clear, the poem is less about being angry with my grandma than being overwhelmingly joyful to be with my mom, dad, and brother.

LGA: What are you working on these days? Do you have any works you’d like to share?

Rachel: I’m not working on anything new right now — the college slam season just finished so I’m definitely in recovery mode!

LGA: Cool. What would you like to say to younger adoptees who are aspiring poets?

Rachel: To aspiring slam poets I would say – go on Youtube! Watch works by important slam poets. It’s impossible to write well if you don’t even know what’s in your medium. And if you’re lucky enough to live in an area that has open mics and poetry slams, attend! Find someone to workshop you. Ultimately the best way to become a good slam poet is to expose yourself to the art form as much as possible, and see what personally works for you and what doesn’t. And be open to criticism. You’ll get a lot of that. Acknowledge and address the points you think are fair, and ignore the rest!

The Push For Retroactive Citizenship For All Adoptees!

LGA Nation! We need your help! Four of the folks (Jane Jeong Trenka, Kelsey Hye Sun March, Margie Perscheid, and Kevin Vollmers) involved with the amendment that will give RETROACTIVE CITIZENSHIP TO ALL ADOPTEES would like to hear your stories.

If You’re And Adoptee

  • Send us a brief paragraph of what happened when you realized that your parents neglected to finalize your adoption, and that you were not a citizen of the US.
  • Send us a brief paragraph if you had to face hardships because your parents neglected to finalize your adoption, which resulted in your not being a citizen of the US.

If You’re An Adoptive Parent With A Son/Daughter 18+ Years Old

  • Send us a brief paragraph of what was NOT told to you by your adoption agency in regards to finalizing your son/daughter’s adoption so that s/he would be a citizen of the US. 
  • Send us a brief paragraph of your son/daughter’s experience when s/he realized s/he was NOT a citizen of the US.

Please send your paragraph long testimonials to Kevin at: kostvollmers@gmail.com.  The testimonials will be used to help support a draft amendment created by Senator James Inhofe’s office that is currently being moved through the legislative process in Washington, DC.   We will honor all requests for anonymity.

Thank you in advance.  With your help, we can finally put this conversation to rest.

The Korean Adoptee Foodies!

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One of our readers Amie Kim suggested that we do a Korean adoptee chef and restaurateur post. We love to eat here at LGA, and so we said, “Heck yes!”

Danny Bowien of Mission Chinese Food – The New York Times Article

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“The rest of the Mission Chinese story is just as unlikely: Bowien is a 29-year-old Korean guy adopted at birth by non-Koreans, brought up in Oklahoma City, inspired by watching cooking shows with his mother. He never cooked Chinese food until the restaurant opened about a year ago. The staff is composed largely of the Chinese family that owns the building and still runs Lung Shan. Many of Mission’s dishes are precisely as “Chinese” as Bowien himself (which is to say not at all); and the owners maintain a zany idea to deliver anywhere in the city, as well as a larger commitment to changing the food system.” (source)

Eric Ehler of Seoul Patch and Gung Ho in San Francisco

This Year’s Top Chef Kristen Kish

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“I need to go back, not to find biological family, but to see where I was born and learn about Korean culture.  For me it’s important to know where I came from, not necessarily who I came from.  I would love to visit the clinic where I was born.  I think it will be a huge moment for me.” (source)

Marja Vongerichten of Kimchi Chronicles

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“Oh yeah, absolutely. We didn’t really talk about me being adopted because I looked like my parents and family. My parents are African-American and my mother is very fair-skinned and almost looked Asian at times too. Nobody ever questioned it and we didn’t really talk about it. My brother didn’t even know about it until much later. I grew up with memories of my birth mother. In terms of identity, I really didn’t acknowledge the Korean side because I couldn’t really without getting into this big, deep story. I identified with being African-American because my family was. I wasn’t really accepted as African-American because I don’t really look “full” African-American. I would always get the “where are you from?” and the Black kids would call me oriental. It was tough and I went through a real identity crisis in high school. I went to a performance arts high school in DC for two years that was predominantly Black called Duke Ellington. I went completely militant and was reading about Malcolm X for the first time and all these famous African-Americans and I felt a sense of pride and that I finally belonged somewhere. In college I had a hard time again. I think every kid whether adopted, not adopted, mixed or not mixed, you just go through the craziness of being a teenager. It was hard.” (source)

Kim Sunee

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Kim Sunée is the author of the national bestseller, Trail of Crumbs: Hunger, Love, and the Search for Home (Grand Central Publishing). Trail of Crumbs was both a Barnes & Noble Discover pick and a Book Sense Pick, and has been translated into Korean, Chinese, and Hebrew. She has been featured in the New York Times, Ladies’ Homes Journal, People, ELLE, and Glamour.

She ate and lived in Europe for ten years before working as food editor at Southern Living magazine and Cottage Living magazine. Her writing has appeared in Food & Wine, ENTREE, The Oxford AmericanCooking Light, and Asian American Poetry and Writing. Sunée has appeared several times as a guest judge on the Food Network’s Iron Chef Americaand has collaborated on several cookbooks, including The Tuscan Sun Cookbook by Frances and Ed Mayes, and the Tupelo Honey Cafe by Elizabeth Sims and Chef Brian Sonoskus. She is currently working on a cookbook to be published by Andrews McMeel March 2014.” (source)

Sang-hoon Degeimbre – The Star Chef Article

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“At the age of five, Sanghoon Degeimbre was adopted with his younger brother into a large Belgian family with eight other children. By the age of 14, Degeimbre had discovered his love of cooking, and preparing meals for his family not only trained him in the practicalities of cooking for large numbers, but it also ignited his desire for further education.” (source)

Minnesota’s Very Own Kat Melgaard and Thomas Kim of The Left Handed Cook

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“It’s a market stall at the Midtown Global Market, run by a newcomer to town, Thomas Kim, who came here for the same reason a lot of local chefs did, because of love for a girl—a North Dakota girl, as it happens. That girl is Kat Melgaard, who grew up on a farm in Noonan, North Dakota, and lived in Minneapolis when she attended the Aveda Institute. She thought this would be a good place for her and Kim to set up their future and, boy howdy, I think they’re right.” (source)

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Don’t Get “Stuck” In Minnesota, Craig Juntunen of Both Ends Burning!

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I walked away from adoption in the summer of 2006.  Disenchanted by the system and disgusted by what I had done as an agency person, I vowed never to return.  But I did after moving back to Minnesota from Washington, DC.  My fellow MN adoptees reminded me of the power of our voices and showed me that the adoptee community could and should be the leaders in adoption.  So, I started Land of Gazillion Adoptees to do my small part.

LGA has obtained success.  I don’t attribute the success to what I’ve done, though.  I attribute the success to all involved with LGA, the numerous individuals who have shared their perspectives, insights, projects, and programs with us, and, perhaps most importantly, the growing adoptee movement in Minnesota which is a force.  No offense to anyone, but one would be hard pressed to name another state that matches the vitality of what adoptees have going on in the “Land of Gazillion Adoptees.”  It is into this environment that Craig Juntunen of Both Ends Burning is brining his traveling bus tour for the film Stuck on Tuesday, April 23.

I hope Juntunen is ready for a debate because many adoptees here in Minnesota are not enamored by his wealth, power, lobbying, and connections.  Many are fully aware of his/Both Ends Burning place in the Evangelical Adoption Movement.  Many have actual research, not sentimental rhetoric disguised as facts, to refute every statement Juntunen/Both Ends Burning/Stuck surely will profess as the truth.  And many will make sure Juntunen/Both Ends Burning/Stuck leave town wondering why the traveling circus didn’t get a free ride.

We’ll see you soon Juntunen/Both Ends Burning/Stuck.  Before you get here, please know that the new, thriving Minnesota adoption community is the house adoptees built, not by folks like you ;)

I leave you with this.

“They hate, they petty
They say we too heady, too heavy, too many, too much punk
Much too drunk, too much luck, love too much
Yup
But we earned it all
All work ’til the curtain calls and our time is up
They ain’t got enough
And it burns ‘em up
Before tour and First Ave it was D4, T-Rock
And way more than I’ll name drop
But I got y’all when I see y’all
And I’ll keep y’all when the beat stops
I built more than a rap career
I got my family here
But some punks wanna jump up
With a sharp tongue and their fronts up
Like we got here by dumb luck
But they just wanna become us
That’s what’s up when you come up
I move like a dump truck
Too long on the road and I earn what I hold
But if you wanna let me know I can burn your flow like
Whoa” – From “Doomtree Bangarang” by Minnesota’s very own Doomtree

 

The ARPC Conference: Reframing the Adoption Discourse

Our friends at the Adoption Policy and Reform Collaborative just sent out their conference notice. We understand the following folks have already been confirmed to present:

Jane Jeong Trenka, Marissa Lichwick-Glesne, Robert O’Connor, Katie Hae Leo, Liz Raleigh, Amanda Woolson, Soo Jin Pate, Lisa Marie Rollins, Kelly Condit-Shrestha, Susan Ito, Chad Goller-Sojourner, Sun Mee Chomet, and many more!

Sounds pretty amazing!

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”Hit through the target”: The Land of Gazillion Adoptees Interview With Sun Yung Shin

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Minnesota has a rich literary scene. Smack dab in the middle of it are some incredibly talented adoptees. One of these individuals – the well published Sun Yung Shin – took the time out of her busy schedule to answer some of our questions. Check it.
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sun-yung-shinLand of Gazillion Adoptees: Why are you so camera/live interview shy?

Sun Yung Shin: I’m not, I just don’t like Skype and I don’t like talking on the phone. Skype is alienating because you have a little picture of your own face moving in the corner. Holding the iPhone up to my ear actually makes my hand cramp, wearing earbuds and talking into the microphone seems unnatural, and the sound on the phone irritates me because it’s hard to hear clearly. I also would rather see people’s face and expressions. It’s easier to accept pauses, which I like, in the conversation. I don’t really prefer typing for interviews because it takes longer and is less spontaneous, but, then it’s easier for the interviewer because she or he doesn’t have to transcribe or worry about being misquoted.

LGA: Makes sense. So, when did you realize that you were a writer and wanted to take it as a career path?

Sun Yung: In my late 20s.

LGA: What influences your writing?

Sun Yung: Language that is dense with meaning, allusion, connotation, secrets, lies, power, absences, confusion, pain, grief, time.

LGA: Is there a particular poem from your last book that you would consider your favorite?

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Sun Yung: I really am fond of BLACK LADDER BLOOD BOX because it / they came very quickly, as if in a trance, and the topic is one that is extremely personal, visceral, and important to me on a variety of axes. A trance-type state is actually how most of my poems get composed, but I remember a particularly heated state of conjuration for those pieces. Some dark magic was bubbling up – like the evil spirit in Ringu! A close second as far as a favorite poem is the Satan series, KINGDOM OF THE LIGHT, KINGDOM OF THE DARK. I tend to like poems that are very rhythmic because they’re more fun to read and I think possibly more engaging to hear. I hope.

LGA: Sweet! Any advice you would give to aspiring writers?

Sun Yung: The same as always: read the best and most challenging work you can find – from around the world. I don’t tend to read much contemporary American work. I tend to like high concept work and/or work by exiles, postcolonial writers, Eastern European writers, and experimental writers in general. Reading interviews with writers was an important thing for me before I began writing and as I was beginning and they’re still important.

Writers’ biographies have also been very helpful, not in terms of craft but in terms of the artistic life, and the kinds of sacrifices, mindsets, sustenance, and perseverance one needs. The rhythms of the ups and downs of a writing season, a cycle of a project, feeling communion across space and time with other writers, many of whom were rebels, misfits, neurotic, depressive, alienated, insane, suicidal – but also had the deepest feelings, the most incandescent visions of human possibility – the banality of evil and our sublimity. I’m thinking of Kafka, one of the writers most important to me.

I also think most writers, or certainly poets, are naturally obsessed with language. I’m not sure if you can really learn that but you can definitely cultivate it, and I do try to cultivate it in my students to the best of my ability. Music has been important for me – classical music that I grew up with in the ballet studio and through piano and choirs.

Reading music, learning other languages, having some physical discipline whether dance or yoga or running or martial arts I think is very helpful because writing is a full-body endeavor even though not a lot is moving when you’re writing. I grew up playing team sports and I was very competitive. When I played tennis on my high school team I would think to myself about my competitor/s, “I am going to kill you.” I also committed a lot of fouls as a basketball player. Kind of aggressive.

A predatorial, primal focus is important for art that is going to matter. I like art that takes risks, and I think it’s important to embrace being wild and entering the wilderness, of the imagination, the world. The world is just another body. There are worlds and worlds in, through, and beyond the one we think we live in. Everything is impermanent and everything is an illusion.

There’s this martial arts idea you’re probably familiar with – ”Hit through the target” – and I think of art that way. You have to go beyond, without stopping, what you think the wall is. As if it isn’t there. Because it really isn’t. And art isn’t really art. “We” as “a person” don’t really exist. We, in terms of energy, just “rent” or borrow our bodies, this collection of cells and electricity and water and microbes, until “we” die and the energy transforms. There is no “I” or “me.” But I’m digressing away from your questions.

I have 9 thousand other things I could say about writing, much of which I could credit to others, but I’ll stop there!

LGA: Well said!  And to members of LGA Nation, go visit Sun Yung’s website to see a full list of her publications, events, interviews, reviews, and more.  As the kids or wannabe hipsters like to say, Sun Yung is the shizzle!

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Adoptee/First Parent Ink (As In Tattoos) Continued

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So, last week we posted some adoptee ink.  A few others submitted pics of their tattoos afterwards.  Here they be!

Kenny

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My leg is on the left, and my friend’s arm is on the right. She designed the little goat bunny. I designed the penguin. We got each other tattooed on one another as well. I also have the penguin tattooed on me, but hers came out better. And she has my signature on her, too. So that’s cool. I’m honored. She has all of her close friends tattooed on her.

Dominic

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I got the tattoo done at Saigon Ink in 2010 for the anniversary of Operation Babylift.

Claudia

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Description from her Facebook page: “Thank you, Pop’s Tattoo Emporium. I have new words to live by…plus they will look so good when holding Adoptee Rights Protest signs..NEXT.. a big SCARLETT LETTER!!”